Can You Really Do It All?
I have been having a lot of conversations with people about work-life integration since I started this podcast. You hear some people say to forget about balance, because life is never in balance. You hear some people determining to fight harder than ever to ensure that they don't fade out of the workplace while they manage their home lives. You hear some people that have simply have given up because the whole experience is just too exhausting. These are all reasonable conversations. But how do you navigate your personal stance in the middle of all this? As your virtual coach, I want to help get you thinking about this more deeply. Think about a time when you felt like you really were doing life right. When you felt professionally impactful, personally fulfilled, and when you actually slept well. What were you, and what were you NOT, doing? COVID may be making some parents reevaluate whether or not they can be in the workplace, as it currently exists. That might not mean they are leaving the workforce all together.
The pandemic is forcing us to pause. I want to encourage you to breathe during this pause. And remember, there is power in the exhale. Sometimes we need to pause and re-center to properly evaluate what matters most in our lives. That exhale, or pause, could be invaluable in the long run.
When you pause and breathe, it is easier to reframe even the most challenging situations. Let me give you an example of how I am doing this:
I've been picturing a slingshot recently. Due to so very many challenging circumstances, I'm about to take a mega step BACKWARDS in some ways. But you know what? I'm psyched. I consciously am choosing to pull way way back on...almost everything...EXCEPT for the most important things. This is going to create some powerful momentum that is about to catapult me SO much farther.
I could look at all this change and transition as a problem. Arguably, it could even be an existential crisis and reason to just curl up in a ball and cry. But I actively chose to reframe it. To picture myself in a slingshot. Knowing that I'm going to take a big step backward but I have total belief and faith (which is bolster by a substantial amount of very hard work) that things will improve. And you know what? It's still scary. But it's the right thing to do and I'm ready to soar.
The priorities that I've chosen to put front and center required that I flex, bend, step back. I cannot do it all. But I can be more selective about what I am allowing to have space and time in my life. I consider that good thought work. What about you? Anything you need to start doing again? Anything you need to step back from? Join the conversation on IG with me @theleadershipcoachinggroup.